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NOT YET 25, ITS OKAY
On one hand we consider adolescents able to make decisions of their own sexuality and reproductive health, we offer them contraceptive and safe homes for those teens who are sexshamed because their parents confronted them on sexual misconduct and even make a room for them to secure abortion without their parents consent. On the other hand 24 year olds are considered immature for marriage! What a contradiction! Most of us wouldn’t care much or give a thought to this, we receive it as gospel.

Research and policy: The dishonest of application

There has been a confusing voices that purports to speak to our young generation. The tragedy has been that Christians and non-Christian alike are all thrown into this conundrum of confusion of skewed perspectives from proponents that are neither Christian not secular. The boundary lines are so blurred, there is no distinction between truth and error, holy and common

Background

The young people who are hungry for guidance from the mentors they look up to, ends up are being subjected to unnecessary high expectations and humanistic philosophies that have nothing to do with truth. These people end up forcing their unbalanced convictions and principles into everyone else’s throat. Sadly they do so with unquestioned authority and speak as though it’s biblical truth. What made me comment on this conversation that has been doing rounds in the internet, you should not marry until you are 25 years and above, if not they are young and not material for marriage. So it begs the question at what age should someone marry? Is marriage a factor of age? Or when is the man or woman ready for marriage?

At what age?

There is no age... An adult who able to assume responsibility with above-reproach character and solid unaided devotion to his God is ready to be married. So that we don’t confuse subjective maturity with readiness, character with chronology or responsibility to years. What of full development of the brain? To some extent I agree with the recent neuroscientific research that human brain is not fully developed up until the first half of the third decade (25 years old. Throughout history we see how research and science have been used and manipulated to entrench various agenda into our societies. We are often gullible to question various research that affects public policy debates, Governance, justice, health, education security and economics, most policy makers end up taking advantage of the unsuspecting populace who can’t question partial use of research for a certain ends.

The promise and pitfall

In the journal ‘Adolescent Maturity and the Brain: The Promise and Pitfalls of Neuroscience Research in Adolescent Health Policy the contributors observes something about partial application of neuroscience. ‘Despite lack of empirical evidence, there has been increasing pressure to bring adolescent brain research for advocacy of adolescent health-and-welfare policy. For example, in the policy process, adolescent brain immaturity has been used to make the case that teens should be considered less culpable for crimes they commit; however, parallel logic has been used to argue that teens are sufficiently mature to make autonomous choices about their sexuality and reproductive health. This is a practical implication of research and policy. Where similar research is used in conflicting approaches as long as one can reach their desired end.

The double standards

As we leave some of this area unquestioned, policy makers finds and easy ride to use research to their advantage or for benefit of those with similar agenda. When we cut out marriage to a certain age we make the same mistake. On one hand we consider adolescents able to make decisions of their own sexuality and reproductive health, we offer them contraceptive and safe homes for those teens who are sexshamed because their parents confronted them on sexual misconduct and even make a room for them to secure abortion without their parents consent. On the other hand 24 year olds are considered immature to make a decision for marriage! What a contradiction! Most of us wouldn’t care much or give a thought to this, we receive it as gospel truth. Two adults who are off schools and having desire to settle are deemed immature, they have to wait till they make it to quarter a century. We don’t care about sexual purity, offcourse it is overridden by a higher ideal ‘Mental readiness’ I am not seeking to underestimate it’s place in adulthood yet purity of our relationship as believers has precedence. I have closely been following the sensational reality shows that have borrowed so heavily on all other disciplines except the Bible teaching on marriage. It is disturbing! As we shelf the Bible and turn to psychology and sociology and other related field we leave ourselves emaciated with no bones of conviction on matters of conduct and behaviour. Recently France, reduced the age for sexual consent to 15 years, in Germany sexual consent age is 14, Japan is 13 as long as they are sexually involved with a minor, all this ride on the premise that argues that adolescent decision making is virtually indistinguishable from adult decision making by the age of 14 or 15. The same data from APA or AMA will be used to show that persons under 18 years lack the ability to take moral responsibility for their decisions. This pick n' choose is the undoing of our culture, who often take a line when it favours them and appeal to science and data to silence those with dissent views.

What is the point

It’s needful to interrogate this half-truths with the Truth, let us subject them to vigorous reason and measure them against the Truth(God’s Word). Half-truths are very dangerous, as long as a Christian cannot draw the lines boldly, we tend to compromise a thought at a time, an action at a time and it won’t be long to find our convictions and beliefs eroded by this elite thoughts that offer enticing promises despite their internal inconsistencies. Let those who are ready to marry, get married

The bigger picture

Am very afraid when the world world become a cistern believers drink from. Honestly the world has options that we believers don’t have, leeways to their desired ends. As we are scientifically advised it is prudent to know that sexual purity is a battle that has intensified in our generation. The world does not have demands for chastity but our God has. On the contrary it has provided way for sexual experiences and exploits outside the institution of marriage. When we pick this worldly philosophies let’s see what is at stake, let’s see the bigger picture. Our average marriage age is 24.8 years in Kenya for male yet we are still having similar problems, divorce cases are on the rise and the family dysfunction is high. Let interrogate this media influencers and correct the errors they feed this generation with.

Finally, “maturity” does not intend to suggest the end of development, but rather the achievement of adult-like capacities and privileges. Let the policy makers address all the possible spheres that are affected by this Neuroscience Research from legal, medicine, governance, foster homes, justice and academies with good and honest balance. So the thought to incriminate young adults just because of a research that has been interpreted with prejudice is uncalled for.

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